You may have heard it said that marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church, and that indeed is fact. Nothing ever overrules the Word of God, including the law of the land so no matter what people may say about marriage, the Bible is clear that marriage is merely a picture of Christ and His Bride, the Church. While this passage, to you as middle school students, may seem like a big brouhaha about marriage, the passage we will look at tonight should be understood by everyone including middle school students because it is so much more than simply a passage on marriage, and while you are not married yet, each Christian is a part of the corporate body of the Bride of Christ. This means that the model we have for our lives is what Christ has done for the Church. Too often, when speaking of the Bride of Christ, we consider only what Christ has done for us, but rarely do we consider the implications of the effects it should have on our own personal lives. The fact that we, collectively, are the Bride of Christ should cause us to live lives that would never belittle God in any way and lives that would honor Him in all decisions no matter what the circumstance. We truly have a response to this amazing reality that Christ has forgiven us, and we are to honor Him as His Bride. Our individual lives should speak volumes of the relationship between God and His Church. Paul speaks of this idea in his letter to the Church at Ephesus, and when reading Ephesians 5:22-33, there are certainly not only ideas but also reasonable and real conclusions on our response to His position as Groom and our position as the Bride. Although this passage is about earthly marriage, it is there because of the real marriage, namely marriage between Christ and His Bride, the Church. If our lives are to honor God, we cannot abandon the fact that we are His Bride. We are called to love Him and be faithful to Him.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the Church, His body, and is Himself its Savior. 24 Now as the Church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for Her, 26 that He might sanctify Her, having cleansed Her by the washing of water with the Word, 27 so that He might present the Church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that She might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the Church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the Church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Ephesians 5:22-33 (ESV)
The Church Is The Bride (vv. 22-24)
Our first realization should come in verses 22-24 when Paul clearly describes the Church as the Bride of Christ. He begins this passage by stating how wives are commanded to submit to their husbands. This is because the husband is Biblically an authority over his wife. The reason for this is that Jesus Christ is the authority over His Bride, the Church, and the husband is representative of that. Therefore, as His Bride, we must submit to Him. Many today make attempts to play semantics with the word, submit, knowing that it simply means to obey. When we submit to God, we obey Him. Submission is a call and a command. Therefore, if you do not obey God through abiding by every word in His Word, you are not submitting to the Lord. You are not fulfilling your role as part of the Church. Your role is not to be complacent and simply ok with playing the church game. Your role is to obey Him in every circumstance. One who says that they are a Christian but are not following the Word of God and basing every single decision on the Word of God is either far from God or not a Christian, and the latter is probably the most likely. Obedience is the key to your walk with God. Do you obey God, and if so, why? Do you obey God in the things you watch, the music you listen to, the things you look at on the internet, and even the text messages you send? If I were to take your iPod and look through your entire music library, what would I find? Would the things that you fill your mind with each day show a life of obedience or disobedience? Do you obey Him simply because your parents want you to? Do you obey Him because it is just right? Or do you have a burning desire and passion to obey Him and honor Him because your have been changed by Him, and as His Bride, you want to honor Him? I hope and pray that is the case for all of us. May we seek God and honor Him through obedience?
Paul clarifies this idea in verse 24 by stating, “Now as the Church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.” (ESV) If marriage is but a picture of the relationship between Christ and His Church, how much more should the reality be that we honor Christ as His Bride? Submission is our call. It is our obligation as God’s chosen people.
When I played baseball in high school, I had a coach who showed me what authority meant when he surprised me with a spanking from a paddle in the locker room one day after a practice in which I had been goofing off rather than taking it seriously. From that moment forward, I submitted to what he wanted. Maybe for you to fully submit to the Lord’s authority through His Word, He must break you. It could be that God will have to discipline you in some way that you do not like to bring you to a point of obedience. If you were to answer this question honestly, do you obey God, or does He need to chisel away some things in your life so that your life is a continuous stream of submission to Him?
I recently watched a video about a guy being chiseled by God that spoke highly of what God desires to do with us. He wants to chisel you, but it may hurt at times. However, it is all for the purpose of glorifying Him and becoming like Him. What does God need to chisel away in your life to make you submit to Him?
Jesus Christ Is Our Authority As The Groom (vv. 25-31)
Paul continues in this passage on marriage by speaking of the groom, but more than that, this passage gives a very apparent picture of Jesus Christ as our authority, as the Groom. Paul speaks of what Christ has done for the Church in verses 25-27. Christ gave Himself up for us so that He might cleanse us and present us to Himself without blemish. This is an astounding idea because of the fact that, as humans, we know nothing but sin unless saved by grace. Our immediate and natural state is sinful. There is no way around sinning for us because of our carnality, and the fact of the matter is that we, even as the Bride of Christ, have turned our backs on Him in so many ways. Consider the seriousness of a spouse who turns away from their husband or wife. It could be that many of you have experienced that with your parents. I do not know why things like that happen except that it is for God’s glory and our good. We must always remember that in trials. If something like that, however, is serious, and marriage is merely a picture of Christ and the Church, how much more serious is it when we turn away from our Lord individually, in our daily lives? Yet Christ has done something unthinkable according to Romans 5. He died for us while we were still sinners. That is amazing news. never be forgiven, but they did it anyway. Think of the amazing release of guilt and the gratitude that you felt. Jesus Christ has done that for us but to a much larger scale, one that is infinite in its circumference. It was while we rejected Him that He loved us and gave Himself for us. Could you sacrifice yourself for someone that despises you and even hates you? That is exactly what God has done for us. We were radical God haters whether we realize it or not. It is not just that we had sin, but we had never known anything but sin. Yet God, rich in mercy, laid down His life for us even while we turned our backs on Him. This is why forgiveness is so crucial among believers. We must forgive because Christ has forgiven us.
What is the purpose of this forgiveness? It is obviously to glorify God, and it is straight from the love of God. However, Paul tells us, in verse 27, that it was to present His Church to Himself in splendor. The Greek word for splendor here is endoxon, which means glorious, gorgeous, or honorable. Without Christ’s death on the Cross, we could not be honorable in any way. Paul continues through verse 31 declaring how Christ has loved us and how He nourishes and cherishes us. This was even while we were still sinners. The fact that something this amazing has happened to us should make us the most celebrative people in the world. We too easily forget the great magnitude of the love of God, most likely because we could never fully understand it anyway. However, we must continually remember God’s love if we are to properly honor Him as His Bride.
As a boy, I played baseball a lot from the fourth grade on. I had another friend, who was named Jonathan oddly enough, who played catch with me when I went over to his house. One day we were throwing a baseball, and it slipped out of my hand as I threw it and went straight into their beautiful stained glass door and broke it. I knew his mother love this door so I was immediately frightened, but to my surprise, when she came outside to look at it, she was ok. She did not make a big deal about it and even gave me a hug. I was so relieved that she had forgiven me, and to this day, I still remember that situation. We must remember the love and forgiveness that Christ has given.
The Mystery And Relation To Us, The Church (vv. 32-33)
Paul tells husbands and wives what to do in the final verse of this passage, but he does not speak of marriage here simply for no reason. This passage on marriage is about so much more than just marriage. This is to be the model of marriage, taken very seriously, and hopefully it is with your family. However, this is what Paul describes as a profound mystery. That is because, more than earthly marriages, this passage is speaking of Christ and His Church according to verse 32. This passage speaks to all people, married, single, young, or old. We all have a duty, as the Bride of Christ, to love and honor Him. Our response to His love, that we just looked at, should be obedience. Is submission if obedience, we should not take lightly this command to submit, and we must obey this particular command to submit to the authority of Christ. Paul’s final command of this passage, in verse 33, is for the wife to respect her husband. Your respect, honor, and love for God will be seen in your obedience.
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